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Will Smith, unresolved trauma and that slap to Chris Rock

Will Smith Slaps Chris Cook at Oscar 2022; Image Source: Screenshot Oscar video

In my article, I describe how Will Smith’s assault on Chris Rock during the Academy Awards could be seen as a TRAUMA RESPONSE (related to past childhood trauma being triggered).

I use the event to launch into a broader explanation of what may constitute a traumatic experience, as well some of the obvious and not-so-obvious ways that unresolved trauma can manifest in our adult professional and personal lives.

While a history of trauma NEVER is an excuse for nor abdicates responsibility for a person who physically, verbally, or emotionally harms another person, understanding the impacts and manifestations of unresolved trauma can help us understand “the why” behind “the what” from a much deeper level.

We can use that understanding not only for this situation involving Will Smith and Chris Rock, but also as a way of gaining greater awareness and understanding of our own behaviours and possible traumas. With awareness and understanding, we can begin the path towards healing.

This is what the result of unresolved trauma looks like.

What we witnessed Will Smith do in assaulting Chris Rock during the Academy Award ceremony was a trauma response.

While I am in no way condoning violence, this is a very public and important opportunity for us to understand what a trauma response can look like.

A trauma response can take many forms and look like:

When a person has experienced trauma (“Big T” or “Little t”) from their childhood (or adulthood), the brain and body store that traumatic memory in ways such that aspects of that memory can be re-activated by present-day interactions and situations.

When this happens, the person experiencing this re-activation is split-second processing (on a subconscious or unconscious level) the current event through the filter of that past trauma. This means that that person is, for all meaningful purposes, experiencing things as if they are right back in that previous circumstance of trauma. As a result, they are reacting (taking action)—emotionally, physically, and/or verbally—from that place of trauma.

Those past traumas can be diverse and range from:

While some of the above may be horrific, and other things may seem inconsequential, depending on the age of occurrence, the emotional, mental, and physical resources that person had at that age and any prior traumas could determine the extent to which that person experienced trauma. A 2-year-old wandering into a closet with a door that shuts behind them that they can’t easily open, plunging them alone in darkness for 15 minutes before someone finds them is a far different experience than that of an adult in the same predicament.

In the case of Will Smith, he detailed in his autobiography, Will, that he witnessed physical violence at home as a child. He writes:

“When I was nine years old, I watched my father punch my mother in the side of the head so hard that she collapsed,” he wrote. “I saw her spit blood. That moment in that bedroom, probably more than any other moment in my life, has defined who I am.”

“Within everything that I have done since then — the awards and accolades, the spotlights and attention, the characters and the laughs — there has been a subtle string of apologies to my mother for my inaction that day. For failing her at the moment. For failing to stand up to my father. For being a coward.”

So, the combination of Chris Rock targeting Will’s wife for his “joke,” along with the look on her face (signalling to Will her level of upset and distress), triggered a split-second accessing (and instantly being placed inside) of that earlier memory when he was 9yo and was unable to protect his mom (the woman he loved).

Will’s reaction at the awards ceremony was that of the nine-year-old traumatized little boy who simply reacted in the way that 9yo boy wanted to react back then.

Does having a history of trauma (big or little) give a “free pass” for the present-day trauma reactions that involve the harming (physically, verbally, or emotionally) of another? No, of course not.

However, it does highlight the importance of understanding trauma and its many manifestations, and addressing it with effective trauma-informed approaches that address the emotional, physical (because we hold emotions in our body), and mental aspects of trauma.

Hopefully, rather than simply vilify Will, and say he has “an anger problem,” people close to him can help him recognize that this is “a trauma problem,” and help him get trauma-informed help in the form of therapy in combination with modalities such as EFT (emotional freedom techniques, or “tapping”), EMDR, or other somatic modalities that can effectively and efficiently release the traumatized aspects held in his memory and body.

Once his trauma and emotions are no longer dictating his actions, he could have a much more measured and effective response to situations such as that that occurred at the awards ceremony.

My further hope is that if anyone reading this finds that they are stuck in patterns of extreme reactions (such as Will experienced), or even less severe reactions, but you recognize are getting in the way of you living life the way you really want, please consider getting trauma-informed support.

Even if you’ve not experienced “Big T” trauma, all of us have experienced various “Little t” traumas that have impacted each of us in various ways personally and/or professionally—some mild, some not so mild.

As physicians, we are masterful at suppressing so many of our emotions, and the thoughts and memories associated with them. However, trauma has a way of impacting us in great big obvious ways (as we saw with Will Smith), and not such obvious ways (perfectionism, workaholism, lack of boundaries).

I’m not suggesting any of us go unearthing swaths of past trauma. Simply be aware that it may be impacting you in ways you recognize and have yet to address, or in ways you never quite thought of as being associated with trauma. And, if needed, allow yourself to get the support you need by working with a trauma-informed therapist, trauma-informed coach, or other trauma-informed specialists.

NOTE: The traumatic experiences of Chris Rock, Jada Pinkett-Smith, the ceremony audience, and the millions of TV viewers are all also very important to acknowledge, and are absolutely worthy of discussion in order to help all of us better understand the MANY nuances and impacts of trauma, not only for them but for each one of us in our own lives. However, I was not able to explore them at this time in this article.

Author: Melissa Hankins is a psychiatrist and physician coach.

Disclaimer: The article was first published on KevinMD.com We have republished it with kind permission from the author.

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